Oct 23, 2018
In this week’s episode of the Date Your Wife podcast, Danielle
and Garrett explore their Dark side, and share how embracing
both the Dark and the Light has given them the freedom to find
harmony inside of their relationship, within themselves, and with
humanity.
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Every week, married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share
insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the
following topics discussed each month:
Week 1: Sex
Week 2: Money
Week 3: Parenting
Week 4: Communication
In This Week’s Podcast…
Point #1: Jekyll and Hyde
- Danielle: Everyone is raised to put
themselves in a box. As you get comfortable with yourself, you own
EVERY side of yourself, including the crazy, but you learn how to
manifest the crazy in a productive way.
- Garrett: Most people cannot accept that
there are literally two sides to them. I spent most of my life
putting who I was, away: my desires, the anger, the rage, the fire,
the questions, the sexual desire.
QUESTION
What is it about you that you are you hiding in a box?
Point #2: Super Power
- Danielle: I can’t operate as Susan all of
the time, so it’s literally learning how to cohesively live
together with your multiple personalities. It’s learning how to be
cool with yourself and tapping into this dark, crazy side of you,
looking at it as your Superpower. Ex: I gotta handle some shit in
business, so Dark Susan’s coming out. I gotta be a wife and a
lover, so Danielle’s coming out.
- Garrett: Relationship is the ability for
a person to be able to be ALL of themselves in a relationship. My
mission for myself and for Danielle was to be able to figure out
how to be ALL of ourselves. There’s Dark Susan sex, and there’s
Danielle sex – totally different sex, both are amazing. As we
become more adaptable to ourselves, I think our relationship blows
up in a big, beautiful way.
QUESTION
How do you handle ALL of you? How do you use the different parts
of you to your advantage?
Point #3: Critical Bitch
- Garrett: Danielle has an
aspect to her that I deeply love now but that I hated and loathed
for most of our marriage, until the last four to five years. This
side is what I considered to be Critical Bitch. Whatever was going
on, there was always this chipping away, and for most of our
relationship I thought, “Fucking crazy woman.”
- Anything to do with Danielle’s dark side was viewed
as wrong, broken, over-thinking. What I had viewed as critical, all
of a sudden become powerful. She had the ability to see things
clearly amidst the chaos, and not be sucked in by emotion.
QUESTION
What have you previously viewed as wrong or broken in
your spouse, but now view as powerful?
Point #4: Embrace the Dark AND the Light
- Garrett: When you start accepting that
this is true inside of you – the Diabolical AND the Divine – when
you accept that this is true about you, when you come to terms with
and embrace and love both sides of you, you start to love and
appreciate humanity and people around you at a level you never
could before because you’re not fucking hiding anymore.
- Inside Wake Up Warrior, Warrior Woman, and Big Money Stylist,
we lead individuals on this path that accepts the true power of who
you are on both extremes: in the Dark AND in the Light, in the
Night AND in the Light, so they can ultimately gain the purest
sight of being able to see truth.
QUESTION
What part of you are you suppressing and not embracing?
Point #5: Submission vs Sedation
- Danielle: How do I get to the end
result I’m looking for in a particular situation? What are the
steps required? It always requires submission at some level.
Ultimately, I’m happier and get what I want. That overall feeling
is better than retreating and closing down. Sedation can be a
sneaky little bastard, and it can come in many forms.
- Garrett: Most couples don’t want to
submit, so they sedate. They go to whatever they need to in order
to avoid having to collide: they eat, drink, pop pills, ignore,
delve into fitness. People go to religion to justify the shitty
relationship they’re in; that somehow it will be magical when they
die.
QUESTION
Where inside of your relationship are you sedating to
avoid collision?
Communication Challenge:
How has your upbringing affected your ability to embrace both
the Darkness and the Light within you?
Date Night Topic:
Have a conversation about your particular
Crazy. What is the name of your Dark side?
Quote of the Week:
“Individually, if you do not come to terms with the fact that
you have a brilliant side that is filled with light, AND you have a
brilliant side that is filled with Night, that your Crazy offsets
your Creator, and that your Creator cannot exist without your
Crazy; until you can come to terms with yourself on this, you will
never find harmony long-term in a relationship with any other
person, specifically with your wife.”
–Garrett J White
“I think people sedate their blessing. They think their blessing
is their curse, so they sedate the thing that can actually give
them power. What if you looked at these things as a blessing and
not a curse? What if you used these to learn how to navigate
through life instead of sedating what God gave you as ‘different?’
What if you learned how to use it to your benefit?”
–Danielle K White
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Be the Man.
To begin your journey in living the Warrior’s Way, click on these
sites: warriorbook.com, dkwstyling.com, wakeupwarriorwoman.com