Apr 10, 2018
The White’s juggle children, sandwiches and grocery
lists in the opening of today’s podcast, demonstrating yet again
that they are keeping things real and raw. Between the flirting,
bantering, sexual innuendos and Danielle revealing what she really
thinks about penises, it’s no wonder their’s is the only explicitly
rated podcast in the category of Parenting and Family, as they are
willing to take things where others are not. Sit back and enjoy
today’s conversation on the topic of Sex.
Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share
insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the
following topics discussed each month:
Week 1: Sex
Week 2: Money
Week 3: Parenting
Week 4: Communication
In This Week's Podcast....SEX
Point #1: Lazy Sex
- Danielle: It’s not like I don’t want to put in the
effort, but I don’t always want to put
in the effort. On my
laziest days I don't just lay there and do nothing, but there are
ways to service your man without getting really into
it.
- Garrett: Does this mean that women are sexually
lazy? Servicing your man is important, regardless of what the
servicing looks like. A lot of women don't get this.
QUESTION: When you have sex, even quickie sex, do you experience
connection or is it more like vaginal masturbation?
Point #2: Tips For Traveling
- Garrett: When men are traveling, it doesn’t matter
for 2 days or 2 weeks, they experience an increased drive sexually.
It happens even if it’s just overnight. There is an increased spike
of being gone from their wife in which sexual desire increases.
When guys are gone for a bunch of days it is very easy for them to
end up in the trap of porn. This is a very big issue for guys.
- Danielle: If your guy is traveling, I think it’s a
good idea to have sex the night before they go. Ladies, just get it
done. Little things like that will make your relationship better
and when he goes out of town he’s going to be more focused. I
learned the hard way. It’s not that big a deal and it’s actually a
win win where we both are getting what we want.
QUESTION: What are the results when you follow this formula?
What are the results when you don't?
Point #3: Pouty Mode
- Garrett went into pouty mode for 10 years because he
felt so out of control inside of their relationship when it came to
sex. He felt that Danielle held all of the cards and that she
didn't give a shit.
- Danielle: I found that pouty mode super
unattractive. As Garrett shifted his energy, it gave me room to
breathe. He just stopped asking and didn’t bring so much pouty
energy to the table. That's when I started changing my story
about Quickies and QQP was born..
QUESTION: What energy is present when pouty mode enters the
picture in your relationship?
Point #4: Women Are Like Crockpots
- Garrett: You tell me to warm you up first and then
worry about myself. What does that look like? You have guys who
don’t worry about their wife at all and worry about their own
orgasm, then you have guys who are worried about their wife’s
orgasm - there’s even a book called, "She Comes First."
- Danielle: I don’t agree with that and I’m going to
tell you why from a girl’s perspective. Warm her up first and then
worry about yourself. I like to be warmed up, but if I go first,
I’m less into you. It's a song and dance, really. We're both at the
finish line: if I go first and you come right after me, it's like
we cross the finish line together.
QUESTION: What does your dance look like?
Point #5: Hobbies Bring Fulfillment
- Garrett got to the point where he began relying on his
masturbation toy and started drinking more. He went into a place of
suppression where he literally didn’t give a shit. At Danielle's
suggestion, he took up surfing, which has been an exceptionally
good fit for him
- Danielle: I suggested he take up surfing because I
felt it would be something that he would enjoy. He comes back happy
and full of this great energy, plus it gives me more space. He has
a mistress called surfing and I'm fine with that mistress.
QUESTION: What hobbies do you both enjoy that add positive
energy and breathing space inside of your relationship?
Communication Challenge:
Talk about the ways you like being serviced by
your spouse - and then go experiment.
Date Night Topic:
Begin the conversation around this idea of "Warm her
up, worry about you." What does that look like inside of your
marriage?
Quote of the Week:
"When you are both on point together and he goes on a trip, this
simple strategy of having Date Night and sex the night before you
go - whether you’re fighting or angry or not - if you do this, life
is going to be better. Your man’s going to go hunt more powerfully,
which means that when he’s gone he’s going to be more productive in
business; he’s not going to go to porn because he’s going to feel
connected to you while he’s gone."
--Garrett J White
"If it has been awhile since you have seen him and he
comes back into town, just get it out of the way. I used to be
standoffish and we would end up getting into fights. My advice is
just get it off the table and out of the way. It doesn’t have to be
a big show, just do it. He will become like putty in your
hands."
--Danielle K White